Bridezilla vs. Momzilla
Another grown woman came into my shop the other day, asking about a mother of the bride dress, and acted like she had no idea how to dress herself. This happens way too often.
It's not that they don't know how, it's that they have a daughter or daughter-in-law that has made them think that they don't have any knowledge on how to dress for the wedding.
This is very sad. Granted there are a few women that need a little bit of direction, but come on girls, give the moms a little bit of credit. After all more than likely you as daughters and daughters-in-law learned a few tricks from your mom on how to dress.
I'm not saying that there shouldn't be certain things taken into consideration like color scheme and other details like whether to wear long or short, but some of these ladies I hate to say are literally shaking, trying to make sure they are within the brides' guidelines.
HERE'S the only guidelines that should apply.
The Bride should buy whatever dress her little heart desires and the budget will allow.
The Mother and Mother-in-Law should bite their tongues if they don't like it.
You can't imagine how many brides cry, that's right, CRY, because their Moms-after the dress is bought and they can't take it back--proceed to tell the daughter that the dress the daughter LOVES is not to their liking. Who's getting married here?
The Mother of the Bride should be the NEXT BEST DRESSED woman after the bride--NOT THE BRIDESMAIDS, The Mother of the Bride! This is where the Mom gets to show her status. The Mother's dress should be just as exquisite as the bride's. She should show how far she has come in life and do a little showing off AND SHE SHOULD CHOOSE what she is wearing herself, not the daughter. After all she didn't get to this point not knowing how to dress.
She should, however, take into consideration the colors of the wedding, time of day, and other points that are important to the wedding.
The Mother of the Groom: This poor creature is often the saddest of them all. I hate to tell you, BUT this is supposed to be the OTHER BEST DRESSED woman after the bride and JUST AS EXQUISITE as the Mother of the Bride.
But instead, I often hear them say something like "I'm just the Mother-in-law so I don't count, I just need something that will make me inconspicuous" I won't let them get away with this kind of talk. "EXCUSE ME!" I'll say. "Sweetie, if you don't count, then how is it this bride has someone to marry?"
The Mother of the Groom also gets to show her status, and should get to pick her own dress, but must also take into consideration the color scheme and other important points.
I often see the brides take great care to dress their bridesmaids in colors that suit their complexion, but then think nothing of telling the moms to wear a color that does nothing for them.
I find that most times the mothers are happier if they get to wear something that suits them. Remember at this point in life most of them have other issues to deal with and the one thing going for them is that they are able to wear a color or style that looks good on them.
3 months after the wedding, no one who attended is likely to remember what the wedding party wore that day. But the Mothers will NEVER FORGET IT if they are forced to wear something that was not of their choosing.
Let's be kind. Try to remember that the point of the wedding is to create a marriage, hopefully one that will result in grandchildren and lots and lots of happy memories as the years roll by. Remember that what goes around comes around, and you don't want coming around another woman proving the wisdom of that old saying, Hell hath no fury like a woman scorned.
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